Your wish for them is to find happiness with that special man, get married and have a bunch of kids to play with your own kids.
It is understandable that you want the best for
your single friends. Your wish for them is to find happiness with that
special man, get married and have a bunch of kids to play with your own
kids.
But you have to allow them make their
decisions without pressure and stop throwing their single status in
their faces by saying words that really don't go down well with them and
may cause friction it the pressure persists.
Veronica Wells of Madame Noire lists 6 things singles girls don't want to hear from their friends or family.
- Why Don’t You have a Boyfriend?: I still consider myself to be relatively young; but apparently when it comes to some of my older and sometimes younger, (like teenaged), family members, my catch-a-man shelf life is rapidly expiring. Now, in their defense sometimes this question is asked out of general bewilderment; but other times, they say it like I’m some type of freak of nature. I guess my kinfolk have some type uterine hearing capabilities I just didn’t inherit.
- *Sad face* Are you Happy?: Thank you for your concern. But the really scary thing would be walking around in a perpetual funk because I don’t have a man. Now, we all want to give and receive love; but not having a boyfriend, boo, husband or significant other at any given moment is not reason to break down. This question suggests that I can’t achieve true happiness or at least contentment on my own. If I’m mentally and emotionally stable, that’s just not true.
- You just have to put yourself out there…: This is another well-meaning comment that is frustrating as hell when it pops up, unsolicited. Now, if I’ve asked you how I can meet somebody then cool, thanks for the advice. If I haven’t, and I’m not a certifiable hermit, I’m not trying to hear this.
- Maybe you’re just too (insert man-repelling adjective here): While we could all stand to learn and grow, this type of comment makes it seem like the person is fundamentally unattractive to the opposite sex. Regardless of whether the statement is true or not, is of no consequence. Unless you’re having an in depth conversation about someone’s flaws and how he or she can improve themselves, and not just to get a man, this is probably going to hurt feelings.
- I know somebody…: Eeek! The funny thing is, it never occurs to people that one, especially if that one is a woman, would consciously choose to be single. So our friends, the ordained matchmakers, feel it is their appointed duty to set up potential love connections. When I get desperate enough to the point where I can admit I need a bit of assistance, I’ll let you know, promise.
- You’re not getting any younger…: *In my Ben Stein, Clear Eyes voice* Yes, thank you I understand how aging works. Ever since the day I was born, I’ve spent every day of my life slowly dying. I needed that burst of optimism. (End scene.) There’s no need to state the obvious, love or even worse try to scare me into procreating with the first man with a moderate to high level sperm count. Things happen when they’re supposed to happen. Relax your mind.